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Mrs.  Allison  Pritchard
K-6 Principal
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Principal's Corner

October "The Other Side of the Den"

“The Other Side of the Den”

Have you ever found yourself in a power struggle with your child?

Here are some “Fighting Fair Techniques”:

1.      Only deal with one problem at a time. Hold back from bringing up the past.

2.      Describe how the problem affects you. Share your feelings with “I” messages instead of “you” phrases.

3.      Describe the problem without attacking the other person. Shouting, blaming, and put downs just make the situation worse.

4.      Ask how the person is feeling. Don’t guess or tell a person what to think or how to feel.

5.      Keep an open mind and listen to what the other person says. Avoid interrupting or putting words into the other person’s mouth.

6.      Talk without interruptions. Turn off the cell phone, television, or computer.

7.      Keeping a sense of humor is okay, but do not make fun of the other person.

8.      Wait until the effects of drugs and alcohol have worn off. If a parent is intoxicated, you won’t be able to think clearly or know what is really going on.

9.      Don’t try to have 1 winner and 1 loser. If a discussion ends this way, you will both lose. Be willing to compromise.

10.  Take a break if you are not getting any closer to reaching an agreement. This gives each person time to think about what they want to happen and possible solutions.

11.  Do not destroy property. Tearing up letters, poems or pictures will not help work out the problem.

12.  Once you have come up with a solution to the problem, remember it doesn’t have to be permanent. Try it for a while and if it doesn’t work for one of you, talk about it and try something.

13.  There is NEVER an excuse for using violence. This includes using threats, coercion and physical violence.

Sincerely,

Ms. Pritchard